Decision to put my Dad Long Term in Rest Home. Right or Wrong?
(Empire, CA USA)
My Dad, 83, has been sick for several months and is so weak he can't even get up out of bed by himself. He has been in the hospital 4 times since May and is now in a nursing home for physical therapy. It is time for him to come home but his primary doctor says he should not go home. I am the only one to take care of him and I feel I cannot do it anymore. I have a bad back and bad knees. I cannot find anyone to take care of him that the state will pay for and I can't afford private care. My dad has dementia and is wearing diapers along with being very weak. He can hardly drink any fluids without throwing up and he does not eat.
What should I do? I feel so guilty about wanting him to stay there. My mother has been in the same nursing home for years. He doesn't even want to go see her.