I am the youngest of eight siblings and my disabled mother has lived with me for 13 years. I have 2 children and have been through a very unpleasant divorce within this period. I work at a very demanding job to provide a house with facilities for my mum and my children have suffered. Over the years as I haven't been there for them.
Every time one of my siblings calls my mum they comment on how much time I spend with her or if she has been out but I am working 70 hours a week and I am exhausted and growing really resentful.
They all live a considerable distance away but never take my mum because they don't have the facilities to cater for her needs - I rent a house which has facilities for her but this takes up all of my salary. So despite being 47 and having a good job I have no savings and no provision for retirement.
I am worried that when I am old I will have no one to care for me and no money to pay for care - am I being selfish?