Dear Princess...


(Lincoln, RI)

My 60 year old sister-in-law spent quite a bit of her life with her parents involved. When my mother-in-law passed, my blind father-in-law came here. We took care of him, she took care of his money. On a regularly irregular basis she would pick my father-in-law up to spend a weekend at her place.


After two grueling years, we learned she had taken all his money and charged up his credit card to the hilt as well! She was also in the background encouraging him to express his anger and was successful during this time in turning him against us!

So we've been completely holding the bag and we're miserable. There is also a son whose self-importance keeps him from helping who lives around the corner from our home.

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Saturday Night Church Lady
by: Anonymous

Christine:

Do you think your comments helped the poster in any way. You remind me of the Saturday Night Live Church Lady.

I've been knee deep in adult diapers for a decade and a half and am probably younger that most of the posters here but I would NEVER, EVER, NEVER put down a fellow caregiver for having feelings of despair, anger or even rage at her/his situation.

It sucks out loud to watch the world go by while you smell p---, s--- , vomit and and array of other disgusting smells, to watch in laws and siblings live their happy little lives and you take the brunt.

If you can't say something kind and relate able to sisters and brothers in the trenches why say anything at all.

By the way, to the original poster, you rock and you have every right to feel your own feelings w/o being harassed and without the guilt police running after you.

Cheers to you and I hope you find a way to take as much burden off yourself as possible.

Love, from the trenches

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Take a Breath
by: Christine

You seem very angry and bitter. No one wants to be sick or blind or dependent. Sure, it's hard as hell, but take a breath and don't spend your life living like such a deserving soul. We all hate this, but you may very well be in a similar place some day with no one to love or care for you.

I'm very upset about my own situation, but life isn't always kind. Bring your nurturing to those you care for.

I can't change your situation, nor mine, but that is what aging brings. Sorry.

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