(Long Island New York)
Sold my house and moved in with my elderly mother (she's 89...will be 90 in September and I am 69) to help care for her 6 months ago because I felt the situation warranted it...
Mind you, my brother (67) has been living at home for a number of years. I cook for her 7 nights a week, prepare lunch, help with breakfast. (She tries to do breakfast by herself).
This is an extremely difficult person to please, as she is very picky (about everything)...
On top of it all, there has always been resentment on her part towards me...mean spirited and loves to control..
I have always tried to limit visits to her because I always felt uncomfortable in her presence.
Living here now has me in a very unhappy situation with no way out...To add to the whole mess, my brother just sits on his ass all day either at the computer and does nothing else(she has always favored her boys) except smoke (just had heart surgery and went back to smoking 3 weeks later).
No regard for his health and I am the complete opposite....Needless to say we have no relationship at all.
Is there any solution for me....
P.S. I have no interest in mending or working on relationships...I have not contributed to the ill will that has been directed toward me all of my life...just need some suggestions here..