Daughter to Care Giving Parents
I need to vent. Maybe I am being selfish but I am so angry. About 5-6 years ago my adorable grandmother moved in with my parents. We were all supportive of this decision.
I am 31 with a 7 year old and a baby on the way. I have always had a close relationship with my mom and dad, but especially my mom. But as soon as my grandmother moved in I have not seen my own mother who lives less than 5 minutes away as much. I have had "alone" time with her maybe 3 times in the past 5-6 years.
Saturday my dad and her stopped by to see us for 5 minutes and my dad promised to come back in an hour to take my son golfing. I asked my mom to come back so we could spend some time together and she said yes. Well, my dad came back alone.
I am 8 months pregnant and my last pregnancy ended in a stillbirth. I need my mom but she is not available. She is stressed out because she is working full-time and taking care of my 92 year old grandmother who gets lost easily. I have been going over when my parents are working but it is stressing me out and I know that I need to take care of myself.
My aunts and uncles (some of which live 5 minutes away) don't share in the responsibility. My dad has started drinking and I guess getting drunk. Two years ago we bought my parents a much needed vacation to Italy which they never took and we were out thousands of dollars because instead of canceling or postponing the trip they just didn't go. They didn't ask anyone to sit with my grandma. They just don't ask.
And now my son has been asking about them because we hardly ever see them. I am so angry at my mom that I cannot even think clearly sometimes.