Daughter Needing Help
I have been searching for a support group so that I can reach out for help. I am a 43 year old single mom of 2 teenagers. Since 2009, I have been the sole caregiver for my elderly mother. He health began to fail. She lived on her own, but she was unable to drive.
So, I have had to run errands, meet Doctor's appointments, and every time she has been in the hospital, I have been the one to take care of her. She lives about 45 minutes away from me. I have a brother that lives 1 1/2 hours away. I have asked that he come on weekends and help me to give me a break, but he doesn't.
Him and his girlfriend spend their weekends on the lake with their boat or going places like out of town or out to eat. While, my time is spent taking care of mama. I have grown a resentment toward him for that. Since 2009, mom has come to stay with me off and on.
Well about a month ago, her health got so bad that she came to live with me indefinitely. I am not sure she will ever be able to live on her own. She is not able to do anything on her own. She has to have help getting up (which is like lifting dead weight). She is not able to bathe herself or fix anything to eat and so on.
Since she has been with me, my brother has come 1 time and spent 6 hours. My house is very small. She has to sleep in the bed with me. I don't have my space anymore. She is very difficult to live with. She criticizes us for things we do. She tells us what to do. We have no privacy. If I talk on the phone, she wants to know who I am talking too or who I am texting. If I am on the computer, she wants to know what I am doing.
I have lost my freedom. She refuses to have anyone to come out to help such as home health care. I don't have a support group. I don't hear from my brother, my church family knows what is going on but doesn't come around. My never hear from any of my friends.
My children stay in their bedrooms all the time because they get tired of her staring at them if they come into the living room. So, I feel so alone. I am on antidepressants, but I still have crying spells.
I have tried to find a local support group, but haven't had any luck so far, just to have someone to talk to that understands. I have feelings of anger, and resentment. Most of all guilt for having those feelings.
This is my story. I hope I can find someone to talk to before I have a nervous breakdown. Thank you for allowing me to share.