Daughter in Law

by Jeanette
(South Africa)

I am looking after my 80 year old mother in law....my husband is working in another country.


It is slowly but surely driving me insane....My mother in law has been the centre of our lives for the last year.....selling her property, household goods, funeral arrangements of my father in law etc.,etc.

It feels as if it is never going to stop....They were hoarders and their house was a nest.....I feel mentally and physically overloaded by this burden and now having to look after her on my own while my husband is away and her other son is totally ignorant.....

I had the hope of helping her while she is living here by buying her some new clothes, etc., taking her out for tea, baking with her, etc.,but I was sorely mistaken....

SHE WANTS TO DO NOTHING....but watch TV,and lives from one pill to the next watching the clock closely in between taking medication.

She shows NO interested in anything and rarely offers any help with things. I sometimes think she thinks she is living in a hotel....The energy in my house has become so negative and it saddens me.....my house is my very private space where I can do what I want whenever I want...but not anymore....

She carries so much negative energy around with her....I cannot distance myself from it.I do not know how to. I feel trapped and anxious and I am becoming very depressed.

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