Daughter in Law Stuck with the Task

My husband is frustrated and has tried to get his brothers to help with out luck. They don't want to help with their own parents. My husband doesn't realize himself until recently how bad it has become, he just keeps saying I'm sorry to me because he doesn't know what to do either. We both work and have about 5-8 years before we retire but cannot continue to pay for their medications, special needs. His parents do not qualify for social security as they became citizens after they retired.


They have no money now as she had a bad fall and the hospital bill was huge, she also needed professional care for several months.

We go to work at different shift times so that they aren't left alone for more than a few hours.

Our home is trashed as things get broken, messes not cleaned up(they don't tell us when things happen) and they are insistent on trying to be independent(disastrous).

We got someone to help with their laundry, beds, and bathroom twice a week. Its all we can afford but they need constant care and i am tired of being treated so badly.

My own health suffers and I have just been through my second TKR. I have so much anger inside for them and for their other 2 sons. I need a vacation so badly, but nobody will come and stay with them.

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