Daughter and Sole Caregiver

by Kim
(Flint, MI)

I live with my mother and have become her primary caregiver. While I'm not sure, I believe she has the beginning stages of dementia. However, the degree at which she is fading is fast. I am concerned because I am not prepared for one, and two I am not a healthy person myself even though I am 40 years younger.


I have one brother who wants no part of taking care of her and yells at me whenever I notify him something is wrong with her health. And at the same time in her eyes (and this is not new) my brother can do no wrong. I am paying for part of her care and am providing the rest even though ill and have many health issues myself.

My brother is not responsible for any of it, but is entitled to half her estate. I am concerned if I try to get power of attorney he will fight only on account of he doesn't want her money spent to put her in a home. He states it costs too much and I stated it is her money. He said no it's ours.

Can he stop me from providing for what she needs out of her money? And how do I tell her she may have dementia. I am also mostly housebound except for taking her where she needs to go. Therefore, am wondering if there is an online support group

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