Dad Won't See that it is Dangerous to Continue to Drive

by Joan
(Bedford, VA)

I have been trying to get Dad to give up driving for the last several years and HE JUST BOUGHT ANOTHER CAR!


The last car was an old late 90's car that literally had dents on all four corners and scratches and scrapes on the passenger side doors like he had been driving through a forest.

I didn't really begin noticing the dings and dents until around a year or so ago when I went to the garage to get something for him and the front bumper was hanging down...not hard to notice. I asked him about it and he got really defensive and angry telling me someone backed into him while he was at the barber shop...funny, the only place to park is head in right in front of the shop....don't know how that would be possible unless he backs in and he certainly cannot do that!

This new car is used and seems in pretty good shape although I had decided to monitor the look of it to see if the scrapes and dents begin appearing.....and sure enough, today there was a dent on the passenger side front door....I asked him about it and again, he got very angry and said "people have become really bad drivers in this town and every time I leave the house somebody is just missing me by and inch or so".

His eyesight seems okay as he reads the paper and can watch TV pretty well at night. Hearing is another matter and I am afraid for him as his depth perception may be off a little that I have noticed from time to time..

Can anyone give me some good advice on how to take the keys away from Dad in a good way, or is there a good way? Any help would be appreciated as I am afraid of him getting injured and worse hurting others.

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