Dad is completely selfish
by nita xerla
I am an only child aged 54 and have been looking after my 91 year old dad for past 10 years. My husband is very accommodating.
My problem is that my dad is very cranky, demanding, selfish, and ungrateful. I burn the candle at both ends, looking after my husband, my full time job as well as living with dad Monday to Friday nights, taking care of his housekeeping, medicines, hygiene and all other care single handedly.
I just cant make him happy. He is unhappy with all that is done and is constantly grumbling, criticizing and expecting more.
I have no social life and can't go anywhere. The stress is taking a toll on my health as well, as I am also growing old.
I do have a sense of loyalty to my dad for all that he has done for me, but my patience has also run dry. I get angry and depressed. I am quite fed up of the situation.
Dad is oblivious to my travails and only complaining about his health, his discomfort (what about mine ??), his food, his requirements, his everything. There is not one word of consideration or appreciation for the care givers sacrifices.
Its a completely thankless job !