Dad 87 3rd year in Long Term Care, Late stages of Parkinson, problems Swallowing and Memory Loss.

by Marta Gomez
(San Jose, CA USA)

9 Siblings that all live close by but with only two, sometime three that care mostly for him 24/7. Second to the oldest sister moved in to his home. She is very cold and not very compassionate. When Dad was in full time hospice care, she did not want to tell the others. Not even my uncle, the only brother left. She was very angry with me that I set out of the box to inform everyone. And now this is the second week, dad is having mini strokes.


The hospice nurse inform her that his heart is very weak. To keep a close watch on him, not to let him get up by himself. She still leave him alone at home, in the hospital bed. And again will update the other siblings of his weekly visit from the hospice nurse. She is now coming twice a week. I really believe my dad's time is very close now. I just want to make sure everyone gets a chance to have closer. But, I have tried sending email out and meetings invites. No one thinks he is going to die.

My prayer is that he has peace with God, his brother and 3 sons, 6 daughters before he graduates to his Glory.

Will my prayer get answered?

~MG
middle child of 9

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Elder Care - Do not give up
by: Anonymous

You are truly caring and special. You can resend an email telling everyone that they need to see your Dad and tell him how much he means to them before it is too late.

My mom has Alzheimer's and I am her caregiver. I am there everyday and I understand what you are going through. I wrote a book about the illness and I wrote poems. One of the poems I wrote is called Before It is Too Late and I emailed it to all of my family members. The poem tells them that they will need to see my mom before it is too late and more.

Remember: do not cry at the funeral with fake tears and say how much you cared about this person if you could not make a phone call or come to see them Before it is too late. Your prayers will be answered and you are truly a wonderful and kind person.

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