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My anger, resentment, whatever you want to label it comes from the fact that I've been there for Mom and Step-Dad for over 10 years. I have a good recollection of their health histories for that reason. Mother has asked and legally given me Power of Attorney medically and financially.


Mother is recently diagnosed with lung cancer. The 2 absentee daughters are now ever-present and are going to take care of things. I'm being called "controlling", "stressed" and told to step aside.

I'm trying to let them do whatever, assuming they will eventually fade into the woodwork, while still being present at appointments to catch information I could need to know and taking care of the things they aren't catching or doing.

Yes, now I'm stressed, but not due to the parents, because of my siblings.

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You Need to Take Charge
by: Anonymous

You have the Power Of Attorney so you need to step up and take charge. They cannot tell you what to do and not do because legally you are the one who should be making the decisions. Step up and if they don't like it then they will leave and that will take a lot of stress off you.

Having help that does not really help is no help at all. Just a lot more stress. Take control and you will feel a lot better about yourself. If it's too much for you to do alone then hire some help for a few hours at a time to give you some relief.
Good luck. Hope you can get control of the situation.

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