Controlling older Sister and Mean abusive Sick Elderly Mother

by Jodi
(Warrington,Pa)

My Mother is 87 and has been pretty much sick my entire life. She abused me both physically and mentally for as long as I can remember.


I have an older Sister and a younger Brother. My Sister is a nurse and is 4 years older than me.

She is a total control freak due to our unhealthy childhood. My Mother is sick and needs a lot of help as she lives alone and I help as much as I can because I love my Siblings and I know they need my help because my Mom is sick mean and manipulative.

My Sister is making me sick and depressed because she wants me to do more and more for my Mother and the more I do,the meaner my Mother is. I have never had a good relationship with my Mother and she pretty much abused all of us as well as my Father.

I want to cut off ties with my Mother but my Sister is guilting me and getting her husband to call me and guilt me because she controls him too..I know my Mother is sick but it's hard for me to let go of the abuse that I suffered thru as a child and even still to this day.

My Sister says to treat my Mom like a psych patient but it doesn't help me deal with her...Help!!!!

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