Constant Disagreement

by Peter
(Wirral, UK.)

I am 56 and my mother is 86. She is nearly disabled but can still dress, toilet and wash herself. My main source of stress is that she disagrees with everything I say or suggest often in an aggressive way and about ridiculous little things. To avoid confrontation I cede to her everything I possibly can until it literally becomes an impossibility.


To provide just one example, yesterday we were in a very large shopping estate outside a B&Q store. I had been into the store to get a wheelchair and trolley attachment. Before entering she then asked if we could just nip into the Home Bargain store first.

The Home Bargain store was on the other side of this vast estate with a separate car park. I tried to point out the impracticality of her request and she just flew into a rage. There are many constant parallels to this relating to every aspect of life. I am reaching the end of my tether.

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