Concerned Daughter

by Michelle
(Ireland)

My Dad died 5 years ago, he did everything for my mum, however, since his death I have become her carer. My mum is an alcoholic and drinks every day, her drink of choice is whiskey.


It breaks my heart to see her like this, I have mentioned it to other family members who are ignoring the elephant in the room.

I have cook for my mum every day and do all the shopping and cleaning. There is nothing physically wrong with my mum she just won't do anything for herself, learned helplessness, she is also very negative in her outlook to life.

I feel like she is just waiting to die. My mum has always drank but since my Dad died it has got significantly worse. However I am afraid I am cracking up with all the negative emotions in the house, she just won't listen to me and admit that she has a problem.

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by: Anonymous

I am so moved by your predicament. It is so hard to care for a sick loved one and when they have alcoholism as well, it is even harder.

We cannot help those who do not want help. But you cannot allow this situation to bring you down to a level that causes you to suffer in ways, such as depression. I would suggest you go to a counselor first and discuss this.

I believe you may be able to find a way to get your Mum to receive help as well. Maybe she can begin with counseling for depression caused by her grieving her husband etc. I know it is hard. I have similar circumstances. Am working on finding help as well. It is not easy. But we must try.

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