Communication With Dementia

1. Be patient and supportive. 2. Offer comfort and reassurance.3. Avoid criticizing, correcting, arguing.4. Offer words to help them. This is how a conversation goes with my mom.


MOM: My back hurts.
ME: Do you remember falling last night?
MOM: (indignant!) I didn't fall!
ME: Yes, mom, you fell and hurt your back.
MOM: I remember holding onto the sink to get up.
ME: That's because you fell.
MOM: I didn't fall, I slipped.
ME: What's the difference?
MOM: I didn't just plop on the ground, I went down slowly.
ME: Fine, you slipped! That's why your back hurts.

Now...repeat this same conversation 10 times a day.
Add to it: What day is it? What's the date? What time is it?
What are you doing today? What are you doing now?
Repeat these questions 10 times a day.

Now go back up to number one at the top of the page and good luck, I say, to accomplishing all that good advice in real life!

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