Chosen One

by Cynthia
(Maryland)

I'm the youngest of 6 (one other sister and 4 brothers (with wives - one of whom lives on the property). My wonderful Dad passed away almost five years ago. He was the best Dad in the world -- very loving and caring and a true family Patriarch.


The mother that I thought I was going to live with is not the mother I remember from years ago. She is very demanding. I moved back home a year ago and did a lot of renovations to the home to make it nice.

My mother is non-appreciative. It is never enough - no matter what anyone does for her. She sits home all day and won't go out to any type of senior citizen events that are available to her.

And to top it off, she has a gambling problem. I recently got her finances under control; she was bouncing checks and withdrawing large sums of money from her account without (at least she says she doesn't) remembering do so.

When I moved back, I sold her car to my brother -- so that has helped tremendously in keeping her from going to the Bank. She was asking a niece, but now I think she has grown tired of doing for her. BTW, my mother is 86. After reading different blogs such as this, I have learned to start doing for myself.

I have two grown sons and two beautiful granddaughters. My sons are gainfully employed and live on their own -- they are wonderful -- never a problem with them at all. And I do have a wonderful companion that I adore. But, my mother is such a pill, no one really comes down to visit her; and she won't solicit help or accept any suggestions on some of the things we can do to make her life better.

She claims she is a Christian woman, but she is constantly thinking she has ailments that don't exist. We take her to the doctors and her doctors tell us she is fine. I feel better just writing this. Thank you!

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feeling used and abused
by: Trish - New Jersey

My aging mom is so very difficult. She is not willing to accept advice suggestions and always throws blame on everyone else and justifies herself constantly.

She doesn't appreciate all that I do for her. I take her to all of her appointments, sit at hospital every time she is there and I have 4 children that I'm trying to raise as well.

But my siblings don't do anything and she is so nice to them and treats my horribly. it is so discouraging and she refuses help for anything. She wants me to do everything.

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