by Chet
(Flushing Queens New York )

I and my wife are retired. I'm 68 and my wife is 63. Her mother just passed away in September, my problem is my life is disappearing right before my eyes. Everything is her father, shopping,health, financial. Everything is being done by my wife. She is under terrible stress and her anger seems misplace at me.

I am a retired Registered nurse and very angry that we are living for my father in law. He was totally independent when suddenly he became dependent.

I am frustrated and at my breaking point. I don't know how to handle this,short of ENDING my marriage of 38 years.

My in laws lived their life's when they where growing up and continues to live their thru us .I m desperate and only getting worse. NEED HELP

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Save yourself
by: Anonymous

I'm sorry your family is suffering. You get relief if you enforce boundaries. (It may offend your family, but you must follow your survival instinct or die from stress).

Don't divorce,it's stressful,& lonely. Go enjoy a hobby with friends, if your wife won't go. Get therapy also. Get a life. We only get one. God bless.

Hang In There
by: Anonymous

We’re all in the same boat, Chet. Alls you can do is ride it out. No sense in leaving your wife. You’ll be totally miserable then. Rally behind her. Help her. She needs you now more than ever. Be a team. At least you have each other.

So many of us are totally alone in it. I would love to have my partner in the trenches with me. It would be so much easier. Your wife is between a hard place and a rock.

Your anger is not helping her. Be a partner in it. Your father in law is in your life anyway, to the end, so you might as well make the best of the situation.

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