Caught in Caring and Guilt Zone
My Mom is 86 years old, short term memory is poor, long term memory is great, lives alone, flew thousands of miles to take care of her.
Her pension is only enough to pay for utilities and for the rest I come up with it. At this point she is well physically, walks in the house all the time, most likely due to restlessness "lion in the cage", REFUSES to do anything beside eating all day long.
I am a maid for her! and she thinks she deserves that, being a mom. I had intention to stay one year (have two more sisters that are suppose to take care of her) yet after 4 months I decided to bring a full time caregiver who will take over.
I will finance everything for one year after that sisters have to step in. In a way I feel guilty that I don't have the patience to take care of her for one year as I intended to do so. I feel I am burning out.
Although I work in healthcare, I have a hard time to test my mother in dementia stages due to her manipulation. If she wants remember things and at time denies remembering or refuses to answer.
All I can say: it is tough!!!!!!!!!