Caretaker of 76 yr old single mother... I am the only child..

by Pamela
(Pennsylvania )

I get blamed for everything. I am stupid, lazy don't know how to do anything I have no patience I'm a bad ungrateful daughter. She hates my husband and says he rules over me. Constantly complaining about him. She complains about food, cloth, schedules basically life.


If she has to take medication like antibiotics she can not focus or follow simple instructions on when and how to take medicine. Can not do simple math.

And just recently badmouths my husband and I to basically anyone that will listen even strangers.

She has always belittled me for the decision i have made when i was a teenager for being overweight for not having the acceptable to her standards hair style for not having taste in clothing in colors i mean basically everything.

I cant take anymore I feel like she is breaking me down emotionally and I'm scared that these events will shape me to becoming just like her to my children.

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run away!
by: Greenacres

Run away and fast. Maybe you are just venting, but don't it feel soooo good! No really, you cannot please a narcissist so don't even try. Nothing will ever be good enough and they can make you start to believe you are just a waste of space on this planet. Are you all living together?

This sounds like it can not possibly work. You have your own children and family to take care of. Don't be so hard on yourself. Some personalities just clash. Hang in there and follow your heart, not all the bad gossip that goes around.

Can you find a nice residential place for seniors? There is help out there. I even found a way for a physical therapist that will come to your home covered by mom's insurance. You are a wonderful person, I admire you.

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sounds like you have my mom too.
by: Anonymous

Far too many of us are victims of narcissistic mothers. PLEASE research that and stand up for yourself. If she's living with you consider changing that and quick.

You don't need to be abused any longer and that's all that is. You see what she does to you. Learn from it. I did. I don't treat my children how my mom treats me. (my children won't stand for it anyway) Be a better person than your mom is. Hugs for you.

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