Carer under Stress
(United Kingdom )
I am the primary carer for my 90 year old mother and currently spend half the week at her house and half at my own home. I'm the youngest of 3 but my siblings don't really give me much support. My sister lives in London and uses her location and financial position as reasons for not helping.
My brother has learning issues and does not cope well with Mum's ill health so the caring basically falls to me.
I am epileptic and whilst my epilepsy is currently well controlled I am currently under a lot of stress. I accompany Mum to all medical and hospital appointments, handle her medication, her financial business and whilst she is still independent to a degree, I'm finding it increasingly stressful looking after her.
She will not entertain carers because of a bad experience a few years ago, telling everyone she has her family to care for her but that's namely me.
I'm starting to become easily irritated and impatient and have verbally taken this out on Mum on the odd occasion. I don't mean to but I'm finding it difficult juggling home life with life at Mum's.
I also have my mother-in-law in poor health which is an additional concern.
I'm not a bad person, just someone who is tired and stressed and I feel so guilty for not being able to manage my stress better. I'd be glad to receive any tips on how best to keep everything on an even keel.
My husband says the cracks are starting to show.