Caregiver/R.N.

I have been taking care of my 84 year old Mom for the last 5 years, and my Dad, now for 2 years.


Both of my sisters live in the same town and maybe come by and visit once a month, or call once a month, but have not ONCE, ask me if I would like a few hours off,and they would give me a few hours to rest or to take just a little time for myself.

I do not understand, but one of my sisters has no problems always asking for money. The one thing I ask for,is please let my Mom and Dad wake up in the morning.

It makes me cry but not in front of my parents to be so lucky that I still have my Mom and Dad, and they wake up every morning.

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Been there
by: Anonymous

You have been a selfless daughter and not a complainer. Sometimes you have to be a hard ball to get your point across to some siblings or they will go on thinking life is just peachy. You and parents will remain out of sight out of mind.

I suggest meeting with your siblings and be up front with them about your needing a break or sharing responsibility.

You clearly are depressed and stressed out. Before you know it, your own quality of life will go down the toilet. The fact that "you are the nurse and your siblings are not" is irrelevant and just another excuse siblings might try to use to avoid responsibility.

Sorry if I sounded angry, but I’ve been there (yes, I’ve come unglued at some siblings for making such a stupid excuse).

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your better
by: michael boston

Same situation here. Bless u and your not giving up attitude loving and non selfish. This is extremely hard balancing act and sometimes there is no balance and you give your all. Kind of like u don't exist.

And other family members have all their excuses. Ir just no respect for your life. But what I realized is we do so much I believe we are keeping them spiritual and providing them with future...brighter days hopefully. Bless u are the angel. Michael Boston I have post too

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