OK here goes...I'm the Daughter in-law or should I say as I've heard said by family members the outlaw! Three years ago my mother-in-law my Best Friend moved in with myself and her son my husband Mike.
She truly was one of my best friends I could talk to her about pretty much anything and we did a lot together. I would have her over for dinner a few time a month and send meals to her once or twice a week, shop together go to lunch and needless to say when she moved in I became a caretaker and lost my dear friend.
Our life's were not suppose to change but who were we kidding everything changed at 60 years old our kid's are all grown up and on their own and now we still have to make arrangements if we want to go away or even out to dinner.
She has COPD other than that she is fine still drives and is very sharp. When we discussed her moving in she sold her home to her youngest son and put an addition on our home with some of the proceeds a beautiful bedroom full bath and walk in closet, and with the rest of the money gave each one of the other sister's and brother 10,000 dollars, which is fine.
Here's the problem...I feel guilty if I don't feel like cooking or if I want or need my husbands attention or if I want to have my grand kids over or if I don't feel good I still feel like I have to make her lunch and dinner!!!
I do all the laundry fold her clothes and put them on her bed. I have OCD I know that my house has
to be perfect at all times, she reads the newspaper all day and when she touches things I have to wipe everything, she spills her coffee every where I have to wipe it up if she gets crumbs on the counter she brushes them on the FLOOR with her hand my kids all 3 of them would never do that!!!!
When we have dinner together the conversation is pretty much between her and her son, when we have coffee in the morning on weekends same thing. I miss me and my husband having private time together I feel guilty feeling this way when we do go away for a few days a couple times of year his brother takes her which is nice but what about the rest of the year.
Her daughters live close by and I love them both but I need a Break once in awhile and need time alone with my husband I'm 60 but still desire a relationship with him, I can't talk to him about any of this because he thinks I'm just complaining although Mom complains everyday about someone or something!!
We just went away for 3 days and came home and had one night at home alone and it was wonderful she will be back tonight and I feel guilty but wish she could stay with his Brother for a few more days so we could have together time in our home.
Well that's about it we have to pick her up tonight wish her daughters would take her and spend a couple weeks a year with her so we could have a break!!! Am I a bad person? I Lost my Best Friend and will never get her back she will always be my Mother-in-law now!!!!