Caregiver

by Diane
(Point Edward Ontario Canada )

My mother is angry depressed anxious and in pain most of the time. I try to provide her with a quality of life however she refuses to go to doctors appointments or dentist appointments or virtually most outdoor activities.


She lives in her own subsidized apartment and a one hour drive away from me however, I have home care set up for her and a V O N comes in once a day for about an hour. She is nearly blind, is a diabetic with insulin needs and experiences a great deal of pain in her upper back and shoulder and hip.

We are awaiting a semi room in a long-term care facility however, she does not want to go now.

She deals with post dramatic stress from 1974 the death of her first young son to brain cancer and then another 15 years later her second son died of brain cancer. She has never dealt with these issues and lives in her emotional pain and copes by a sometimes drinking alcohol or just going to bed and sleeping but most of the time she is very isolated and depressed.

I have difficulty communicating with her and do my best to help her however if she refuses help And I am her lightning rod for anything that goes wrong.

I feel very stressed and anxious and only wish that she have a quality of life for the last remaining days months whatever of her life on this earth.

I don't know what more I can do and so I'm asking for advice. I look forward to hearing from you and thank you so much.
Diane

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