Caregiver to father...only adult child

by Sherry
(Warren Michigan )

I resented my dad having to go into a facility as it is only me to care for him which I did until his second stroke. He doesn't want to participate in therapy this time and he cannot..get to bathroom by himself at all. Have applied for home care Medicare but long waiting list. Any suggestions would help. thank u

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Practical suggestions
by: Gina

Sherry, if I understand your comment correctly, you desire to care for your Dad at home? I think I can provide you with practical and specific ideas since I am currently overseeing the care of: my 2 elderly aunts in FL (ages 100/97) from out of state; my own single mother (90) who lives next door to me, and; my 85-yr-old mom-in-law in a nursing home 2 miles from my house due to dementia and chronic back pain.

She is in a very decent care facility and the staff have done an excellent job of getting her out of bed and attending some of the social stuff they put on (whereas in her home and a prior facility she refused to participate in anything.)

My MIL is on Medicaid and gets the same care as the "paying" residents. Change is so much harder on the elderly, especially since they are adjusting to changes in their health and abilities on almost a daily basis.

Not sure how old you or your Dad are, because his care can go on for a long time and being in the house with only you all day is sort of a "sterile" environment for him (socially).

Caregiver burnout is real and doesn't take long to manifest, especially as an Only, which I am also. Does your father have the financial means to hire a service like Visiting Angels (in the US)? I have this service for my Aunties in FL and it works very for them.

I have lots more practical info for you if you want. Feel free to ask here and I will respond quickly.

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by: Anonymous

How long is the wait list you mentioned? I know a lot of senior services.are income based when it comes to actual costs. When your father was released from the hospital after his stroke was he transferred to a long term care or rehab facility for a few weeks? Have you inquired with your local county senior service office for any additional services your father may qualify for?

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