Caregiver Stress - My Brothers do not even Respond to Phone Calls when my Mother is in the Emergency room.

by Noreen
(Horsham, PA)

She recently spent 2 days in the hospital and neither brother called or visited her. I am so angry I don't know what to do with it.


This has been going on for 8 years and includes a heart attack, stroke and cancer, not to mention several falls and congestive heart failure. In addition, one brother wrote himself checks for over $18,000 while he had the Power of Attorney.

I fought to get the POA back and now have her placed in an assisted living facility, she has dementia and is incontinent. But my brother fights me and the facility every chance he gets because he doesn't want her money spent on that.

I can't concentrate on work because I am so frustrated and angry. If I have to do all the work, fine, but not only don't I get a thank you, I get yelled at and cursed at and ignored

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Disonnected
by: VCook

I am so sorry for you. I know how you feel. Some brother's feel it is okay to leave all care and responsibility to someone else...for their parents....usually their sisters.

It's about time the Sister's made a pact to do their share only...and if things suffer... blame the son. Got so sick of hearing my Father say but, your brother has a job....I did too until my parents got sick ... all I have now is resentment and debt!

Love to see the brother's dump their wives with 100% responsibility for their children and see where it get's them. Make sure your brother's cheque for $18K comes out of his inheritance. What a disgrace some humans are...my brother is one of them !

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How do I get Power of Attorney
by: Anonymous

My Mom has Alzheimer's and is still functional but she's starting to get a little crazy. I don't have power of Attorney and she won't give it to me..... not sure how to go about this and advice would be appreciated.

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The Brothers Ignore You, You Ignore Them.
by: Anonymous

You need to set personal boundaries. Don't let your brother's ignorance eat you up. Roll up the emotional drawbridge where he is concerned.

I hope you have an attorney for care of the elderly. They would help you maintain your legal rights as a caring daughter. I would completely ignore your brother and not contact him about anything.

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