Caregiver Stress - It's Never Enough...

by Grace

Because I quit my job and helped my dad care for my mother until she died, my siblings expect me to do the same thing for dad. The problem is that I loved and liked my mom and I do not have a good relationship with my dad...

In between I took care of my husband who went through successful but very trying cancer treatment. My siblings do not seem to understand what I am already doing for dad - I am resentful but feel obligated to assist him. They seem to feel it's an option.

When we try to talk to dad about his current situation, he gets mean and insists that he is living independently, which he is not. But true to his past position, he does not recognize nor care about the toll it's taking on all of us to maintain his "independence". It's miserable....