I sold my home in Chicago, left my job to move and take care of father with dementia. He is now in a home and I take care of my half deaf elderly mother.
I live in my mothers house. My older sister lives 1 mile away, has a very good job (as does her husband) and family.
I am 51 (the youngest of three kids ) and have not worked now for several years. I lost all my equity in my house as it was a bad time to sell.
My savings are pretty much exhausted from the move and paying for my expenses. I do not get any salary or stipend for caring for them.
My sister has completely withdrawn now, she comes by some weekends to take my mom shopping and calls her during the week.
She is the oldest and is very controlling. She has power of attorney over my parents estate and her name is on the mortgage as well.
I am increasingly at odds with my mother as she is bitter and resentful of life. I get no practical help from my controlling sister. I know I will end up destitute when my parents pass. I do not know what to do. My health has suffered and I have no social life.
It seems hopeless. My sister and mother pay lip service that they REALLY APPRECIATE ME FOR WHAT I HAVE DONE. But, when it comes to making big decisions, my ideas are immediately dismissed.
I had asked my sister to stay overnight on weekends to care for my dad when he was still at home, but she said she could not, because she had a family to care for. She lives 1 mile away. Her family is her husband and her 22 year old son who lives at home.
I clean up the messes, she seems to get all the credit. My mother adores my sister and looks upon her like a saint. On the other hand, I am the bad guy.
I am viewed more as a necessary nuisance.
I don't have the money to move out, and am trapped. I am honestly suicidal at this point.