Caregiver of Elderly Mother with Sibling
My sibling and I take care of my Mom. At first it was no big deal, with the help of my sibling it was just one night a week. However, as time has gone on we are all tired. We have been taking care of my Mom for more than 8 years.
My Mom feels like we should be honored to take care of her. She feels we owe it to her. That is what bothers me the most. She does not appreciate what we give up to stay with her. My husband had an affair. I leave him to go stay with my Mom and stress about what he is doing and if he is being faithful to me.
Mom will not go to any of our houses on holidays, we have to give up our time with our families and go to her house. Our children do not want to go over there because she is so mean and negative. The TV is so loud I am sure the neighbors can hear it.
This is terrible. Sometimes I just wish she would go to sleep and not wake up. It's not that I don't love her, I am just tired of the whole thing. I need to get my own house back together. When I mention to Mom that I need to get back to my own life she punishes me with ugly things that make me feel like a bad daughter.
To tell you the truth, most everyday I pray God will either take me or her. Oh, did I mention my Mother in Law is in a nursing home. If I am not with one I am with the other. Just shoot me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee....
Thanks for letting me vent.