Caregiver of 86 year Old Demented Mother-in-Law
by Emotional Wreck
I am resentful. My husband has 2 brothers who live across the country. We have her live with us because she lives in the same state that we do.
I have to work nights, have passed up promotions, we can't go on vacations and I do not sleep but 3 hours when I work because I worry about her. Her 2 sons are sometimes sons. One calls once a week and the other one calls when he thinks about it... that would be once or twice a month.
With a demented person you cannot get upset about any of their actions. I do not like that I feel this way. She is a stress to my young adult children. I only hope she does not outlast me...I am exhausted with mixed yucky emotions about this whole thing.
I do not know why I have to be the main caretaker when one of her sons wives do not work. I am tired and short on emotional reserve. I do not enjoy any of this at all.