Caregiver in Ohio

by Chloe
(Medina, Ohio)

My mother, who is a widow, recently had a brain tumor removed. Of course, all my siblings attended the surgery but soon after went home to continue their lives.


Now, I am the chosen one to take on her care. I have a husband, two sons (one who is married), a new grandson, a job, a home to take care of, and two dogs. My youngest son just left the nest last May. I have contemplated on returning to nursing school.

Now, I love my mom but let me explain our past relationship. We were never close as I grew up. She tended to be emotionally and physically distant. She doted on my divorced baby sister-supported and helped raise her three children. This sister has moved to another state and will barely call to check on our mom.

I have another brother (sister-in-law) who work at a million dollar business in Florida who are too busy to help and who are in deep denial about how much help our mom really needs. So this is my dilemma. I'm taking care of our mother who never wanted to be close to me and now that I'm the only one around, I'm awarded the title of her caregiver. I am angry.

I don't take it out on her, but I'm afraid that the anger is going to affect me. I want a life. I stayed home to raise my sons and now I want to return to school. It's my turn.

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