Caregiver #1

by Kate
(Surgoinsville, TN)

I was the caregiver for both of my parents. Both of them for 1.5 years and my Mother for 3 more years before I moved out of state. One of my other sisters moved into the family home when I left she has been there for 2 years and has been pocketing money from insurance for Moms care as well as money from Mom's checking account.


The arrangement I had with my parents was that I would pay for groceries, I paid nothing else. I relayed this to my sister when she took over the care.

I have recently had my name put back on my Mothers checking acct to be able to keep a handle on the expenses. My sister has a job and Mom has 3 people who provide her care for her during the day.

Since my sister is now being monitored to as what money is spent, she has requested 600 for compensation as she feels she would be able to move out and not have the responsibility of care giving and break even.

My Mother is in her house, and there are funds available to care for her for quite a while. Am I wrong to feel that my sister should not be given any "compensation", she has no household bills to pay and is just riding the "money train".

My Mother's primary paid care giver is my sisters best friend who will be moving into the family home within the month. I have 3 other sisters and if they agree that this one should get compensation for staying with our Mother, I will be pissed, just sayin.

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