Care Giving of Elderly Parents - Do it all? NOT
I ended up blowing off what's important to me. I can't keep that up. I am angry & resent it. I have "Mom" parked in her new apartment and I'm trying to get back to my life. I do not answer the phone the moment she calls. She likes to dramatize everything. No one is ever as sick, no one suffers the pains she does, we're all stupid, etc. No more... My life is worth more. My sanity is worth more. I've done all I can. No, my sibling will not help.
Mom is safe, she can call the facility services or do without. I feel bled dry, emotionally and physically. It's been a negative learning experience. I've correlated it to much of my childhood. NO. I deserve better.
No matter what it's never good enough and there's no thanks for doing for her. I've told my daughter, do not think twice, put me in a home.
Do not let me wreck your life, like Grandma is trying to wreck mine. No one owes another this much blood, sweat and tears. I know what selfish is, I've seen her in action. NO MORE. There is no balance, that assumes the other would give something back.