Care Giver Daughter-in-Law

by Trudy
(Illinois)

My almost 94 yr. old mother-in-law lives with us. She suffers from congestive heart failure and COPD and is quite disabled. She is becoming very resentful of me and blames me for many things, such as "shoving pills down her throat". (I put her medications into her pill boxes daily.)


She accused me of shoving her today, when I only put my hand on her arm to get her attention, as she is almost deaf. She is also suffering some dementia. She could not understand the word "walker" today and asked me "what is walker?". I am getting upset frequently and don't know what else to do.

My husband also cares for his mother, while I am at work, mostly. I do my best to not react to her, but sometimes, I have to say, her comments have brought me to tears.

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