Can't understand it

by Needing a Solution
(Houston, Texas USA)

I live in mother's home with her after she started progressing in the stage of Alzheimer's.


In addition to that I have a brother that has suffered a stroke and can't do much for himself because his right side is completely paralyzed.

Therefore, I am taking care of two sick people.

I am the middle child of 8 children, 5 girls and now 1 boy. I don't have any help from anybody. I do receive SSD myself because I am on disability.

My brother only receives a few hundred dollars per month because he served in the military.

My mother Social Security pays the utilities but I don't get any compensation for taking care of these 2 people. If and when I need to get money out of my mother's savings, I get a phone call from a sister that lives in another state.

She doesn't feel I should mess with my mother's money at all since she pays the bills out of my mother's account for us.

But I can't get anybody to help me with her, no time off for myself. If I should decide to go out of town for a few days I have to take my mother with me because no one wants to keep her. But they get mad even if I go out of town, especially if I use some of her money to go.

I don't get it. If one of them was taking care of my mother and I wasn't helping at all. Not financially, not physically, not even a phone call on a regular basis, I would say do whatever you feel you need to do.

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