Cannot Cope Any More

by Pearl
(Ashford)

My mother is now 87! It all started in 1987 when my father died. At the time I was getting divorced (Had a daughter of 3 )and AT the time it seemed the right thing to do and live with my mother. Years came and gone. She always meddled with bringing up my daughter, and now she has an obsession about her.


She runs around after her, combs her hair, etc... My daughter cannot take it any more which is understandable. Me, I do every thing for mother (cook /take her to appointments/shopping,etc...But still my sister who is 3 years older does nothing...but all I hear is "your sister this your sister that, her husband, the grandson..." (talk about a grand son he does not even come to see his grand mother) but still he gets all the praise. What ever I do is never right! And I don't get along any more with my mother, she looses her sense of time. And repeat herself constantly and moans and groans about this that and the other.

I have enough of hearing her! I want a life. Am I asking too much? We live in a 2 bedroom flat and mother sleeps in the living room because the flat is too small for 3 persons! I cannot afford any bigger....But sleeping in the living room is already stressful by it self as when my daughter and I get up we cannot make any noise!

We don't live as other people. We don't have a life. I am getting completely stressed out! Mother does not want to go to a home. So I guess I am stuck until she dies. My life will have passed and I will never have had my own place. (The flat is mine rented) but I mean put my things where I want to put them..etc. I am really stressed, sad and cannot cope with living like this any more....I want my life back !

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