But You ARE in this Alone, Blanche. YOU ARE!

Remember that line from Bette Davis in the movie, Whatever Happened To Baby Jane? It was actually in regard to her sister being in a wheelchair but it's exactly how I feel, because Bette Davis says it so heartlessly and realistically. It's a wake-up call for all of us. If you're not sharing the responsibility, you are in it alone.


It might make you angry, but it will make you stronger to accept it. If it doesn't kill you.

Don't let it kill you.

You can vent all you want, friends and family inquire about mom, people visit and come and go, everyone tells you what a great job you're doing, but at the end of the day it's you alone.

Nobody, but nobody, will ever know your experience of your situation, what it has done to you or for you, how it has affected your life, or how you really feel about it.

Unless someone is at your side, discussing every situation, helping solve problems, relieving you of responsibility, you are in it alone.
I think that's the hardest thing about it.
Being in it alone.

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