Burnt Out

by Rebecca
(San Diego, CA.)

I have cared for my 86 year old mother in my home for over 10 years.I am married and have a 21 year old son still at home attending college.


I am completely burnt out after seeing her through illness and declining ability to function.

I cook for her, do her laundry, take her to all her (many) doctor visits, bathe her and do all the extra shopping and errands she demands.She was always a very selfish, undemonstrative mother, but I felt it my filial duty to have her in my home since my father passed away from Alzheimer's.

My only sister is mentally ill and does nothing to help...Now more than ever, with her fecal incontinence I feel desperate to place her in some long term care but am having a hard time finding a place(she has medicare and Medicaid.)

Does anyone have a suggestion for lowering my stress level until I find a solution?

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