Burnt out

Father committed suicide 5 years ago (which was devastating all by itself) leaving mother w/reversed mortgage house- bills-no life insurance - mother has never worked or driven.


Let her stay alone in house for a few months but found she could not handle- she flatly refused to agree to leave house & move with us so my 2 20 something kids moved in from out of state.

In the last 3 years mothers heath has drastically declined & since last Nov hospitalized 12 times. Siblings do not call or acknowledge or help in ANY manner. Just dropped her fr their lives like she does not exist for last 3 years.

After months of fighting I gave up. She has now destroyed their pictures to which I didn't know what to say. She is not very nice & constantly argues & puts up opposition to her health issues.

Because of health I can not leave her alone. One of my children moved out during summer & other one works during day but helps by giving evening medications for me. I feel like a prisoner. I'm the oldest.

Recently retired this past summer but cannot even enjoy it. I'm used to doing a lot & now do just about nothing except care for her. No other relatives to depend on. Friends also seem to not want to support. It's soooo much!!!

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