Building on Quicksand

Mom is 98. I have been taking care of her for 8 years. My brother comes from out of state twice a year to visit. He calls five nights a week to talk to her. Last night he called and I told him that mom was so tired and I can even see it in her eyes. And he says to me, well yeah you know she’s getting close.


And just like that, in one sentence, he kind of dismissed everything I could possibly be going through seeing that tiredness in her eyes.

He always thinks of her in the abstract. Whereas to me, I am living in the concrete. He is in the construction business and he would understand the term building on quicksand.

I have poured 110% into mom over the last eight years. When mom passes, this building is just going to crumble into dust and there will be nothing left standing to show for all my effort.

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