Brothers won't Help with Parents

My dad passed several months ago after me taking care of him and my Alzheimer's Mother who still lived in their own home. This has been going on for over two years. In addition to my own job and my children (who are adults) I have been driving 7 miles each way every day to my parents home to help them. Sometimes twice a day.

If I ask for help with my brothers, they have great ideas, but nothing happens. It's all talk. My parents claim they treat us all the same way..equally. Well it's not equal. Because I'm the girl I'm supposed to do it all.

My dad even called us together to talk to us several months before he passed to ask his sons to help. It made little difference. Articles tell me not to be resentful. I'm not resentful to my parents, but to my siblings. They have their own social lives and so on and I've literally given mine up to help my parents. It's not fair.

Even when I ask for help, I get none. Let's just say they don't go out of their way to help at all. If they happen to be in the neighborhood they stop in to visit. I'm extremely tired and stressed out. No one cares about me. Ignorance is bliss to them.