Brothers Never Plan to Help with Elderly Parents...

I have two older brothers who have pretty much abandoned MOM and DAD for the last 35 years to be missionaries.

I am fortunate to have lovely, dear, sweet parents-88 year old mom and a 95 year old dad who are still in fairly good health. They are in a sharp decline now though in mobility, hearing, memory, and all basic functions. The demands of two elderly parents is very extensive.

I moved them into a trailer in the yard six years ago to have them right with me, but also give some sort of independence for both families as long as possible. I know the time is fast approaching that when one passes the whole situation will change. I am so resentful of my older brothers when they come to visit (once or twice a year at most, for a few days) since they are just "visitors", and have no intention of ever being available.

The amount of work required to maintain two households, meals, doctors, errands, shopping, cleaning etc is staggering. The anger can erupt and then I end up feeling guilty since the brothers are Missionaries. The only solution I see for me is to help my aging parents with gladness as long as possible, be grateful for my years with my parents and never expect any help.

Is anyone out there dealing with abandoned parents by siblings who are doing mission work or similar calling?