Brother-in-law Sinking, Caring for Mother-in-law, Cleaning, Driving, Moms Drinking

by Robert
(Huntington, Long Island, NY)

Well to start with my wife under went cancer treatment all of 2011. I am a TBI, brain injured from 40ft fall.


My mother in law has 2 daughters (One I married, )the other lives 20 miles away. My brother in law lives in Atlanta,(he's worthless). My wife and I live with her mother out of necessity. We are not deadbeats or lazy.....we are going through hard times.

We both cook and clean for the mother. Go food shopping, drive her to appointments, I fix the neglected house and autos. I can't have a job because I'm currently receiving social security and workman's compensation due to my brain injury and physical damage.

My mother in law drinks every day and is on several medications for high blood pressure, heart problems, and diabetes which I beg to differ, due to her eating habits. She is very overweight and complains about having to walk 20 feet to use the bathroom.

I guess what really burns me to tears, is that because her other spawn have kids, she leaves them power of attorney, and the house upon her death. She treats us as if we we are garbage when we grocery shop and its not to her liking.
We get negative results trying to be civil in asking the sister in law to pick up her mother to see her 3 spawn. She never helps with the basics in helping us take care of our mother.

Some reason my mother in law gives them power of attorney, and the house when she passes on. I NEED HELP!

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Yes, you do need help and I'm going to help!
by: Anonymous

Any parent who gives Power Of Attorney and all their worldly goods to a child who does NOTHING to help them has just bought themselves a ticket to live in that child's home.

The fact that this "golden child" doesn't want the parent and was happy you took the burden off them doesn't matter now because the ungrateful parent made her/his choice.

So this what you do:

Tell the ungrateful parent you are bringing her/him to visit "their favorite child" because "favorite child" is bringing her/him on a wonderful vacation. Remind them to pack enough clothes. While on the road call "favorite child" to let them know their parent has re-written their will and you wanted to give them a copy.

Give "favorite child" a time you will be at their house. Now the greedy favorite will worry he/she has been cut out and will make every effort to be at their home at said time.

When you arrive tell ungrateful parent to go on ahead and knock on the door while you hurry and unload all suitcases. THEN DRIVE AWAY LIKE A TORNADO IS AFTER YOU!

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