Brother is Not Doing his Fair Share
My brother lives 15 minutes away from mom, he is retired, so is his wife. I live 1 1/2 hours away and still work full-time.
My husband is retired and goes up every Thursday to take my mom out for lunch or shopping. We try to go up again on either Saturday or Sunday.
My brother rarely takes mom out and it he does it is for an appointment that mom has asked him to take her to or for coffee once in a very blue moon!!!
I have discussed with my brother and I believe part of the problem is that mom does not care for his wife (she can be difficult)that if we worked out a schedule to see that mom gets out it would be good for use both. He will not agree to this idea.
My husband's parents live 5 minutes away from us and they too need care - although they have live in care as they have both had strokes. I organize doctor's appointments for them and oversee the caregivers activities and days off.
Lately, I have started feeling overwhelmed and tired - we have been at this for almost 8 years now with my husband's parents and almost 3 years with my mom. I am currently seeing a therapist who is helping me deal with my anxiety.
Is there any hope that I will ever get my brother to share with me regarding my mom. My brother only has mom now - his wife's parents have both passed away.