Brother and Sister have Cut Ties with Elderly Parents and Me

by Anonymous

My brother and sister-in-law have all but cut ties with my parents and me. The only time they call is when they need something from us.


It's actually been that way since 2007 but just all blew up Christmas of 2013 when we didn't help them out (for the very first time). I'm okay with the falling out, relieved actually, for me. In their eyes, whatever we did was never enough.

We never helped them enough, gave them enough, nothing is ever enough and I have had ENOUGH of that! But, I'm sad and hurt for my parents though.

In an Asian family, honor and respecting your elders is incredibly important. I'm so angry that they have consciously chosen to hurt my parents in the way that they have. Especially when my parents have given of their time, help, money, manual labor and respect without ever complaining; much less getting anything in return from them other than needing more.

My parents are getting up there in age and I know that I will be the one caring for them. The past two years, I've tried to be the best daughter that I can be to make up for the pain my brother and sister-in-law have caused them.

But, I know that no matter what I do, I will not be able to erase the pain their first born has caused them. How do you get over being used and thrown away by a son you poured your life into raising? I truly hope that they wake up before it's too late.

If not, I guess they will when karma hits them. Their three children will treat them with the same "respect" they treated my parents because that was the example that was set before them.

If nothing else, I hope that they can learn to be grateful for what they have in their lives, no matter how great or nominal. Life is so difficult when you don't have appreciation for what's right in front of you and nothing, in your eyes, is ever enough.

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