Both in Failing Health Now!
by Bummed Out
Both of my folks are in their early eighties and about a year ago my Mother was diagnosed with middle stages of Alzheimer's. My Dads health problems are more physical but now he is showing signs of dementia too.
I live about one block away in my grandparents home which I pay rent to my folks monthly. My problems are I have a no good for nothing brother who lives in the same town and he won't lift a finger to help out! I'm furious that he has abandoned my folks in their hour of need.
He has a gambling addiction and owes lots of relatives and friends money. His wife is some piece of work too. She tries to live a lifestyle seen only on Robin Leach's Lifestyles of the Rich and Shameless! What kills me is she's angry that I am in control of the money matters for my folks.
Thank God I am, or I'm sure between my brother and her they would have drained my folks bank account and stuck them in some terrible old folks home. My brothers only comment to me when things went really wrong for my Dad who was hospitalized for a very serious infection was, our parents are almost to the point where they wouldn't even know where they were so he suggested putting them in the cheapest home I could find and then just forget about them.
I told him off and he hasn't been back to see them ever since then (now almost a year ago)! My oldest brother lives out of state and really couldn't even afford the flight to come see my folks, he's that broke. I just feel all alone in this battle to take care of my parents! I work full time and plan on retiring this next year at the ripe old age of 50 and then I feel I can dedicate my care to them full time.
I didn't sign up for this and I don't blame my poor parents but man I never thought this was how my so-called "golden years" of early retirement were going to be spent. I'm just plain lost.