Assisted Living has Worked Out Really Well so Far

by Daughter is Trying

It's been one month now that my mother has been in the Assisted Living home, and I am so relieved to be able to tell you that it is working out very nicely!


Such a long road it's been, I was so worried about it, and I believe it was the right decision..

She has other people to talk with, the staff is nice, the food is good, she has people to assist with her medicine 3 x a day, entertainment,etc.

I enjoy my visits, and can leave and am now trying to move ahead with my life, that was traumatized for years now.

I am grateful. I also know there will still be challenges ahead.

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Congratulations!
by: Anonymous

Dear Daughter is Trying,
You are not 'trying' you are caring! This is such a big step and decision. I'm so happy for you both. It sounds like you found a good place for your mom's new home.

We had to move mom three times in three months but finally, we found a loving, caring new home for her. Mom lived there for almost three years.
You may be finding that you can be more of a daughter again like I did.

I still had lots of caregiving tasks to do but most all of the personal care I was doing for her was then being taken care of by her new 'daughters'.

Mom even started joining in on the entertainment days and surprised me one night by singing me a song from her youth! Bliss.

Isn't it nice to find your breath again?

mary in santa rosa ca

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Too bad all parents won't do that
by: Anonymous

That is great news, other parents don't feel that way. I am looking forward to the nursing home, I would enjoy talking with other people, crafts, food. I have always been a very social person.

On the other hand, my mother won't think of it. She said I will die before I go back to that hell (she was there for 2 months after a surgery).

It is all in the way you look at things, your attitude. I don't have kids of my own I am married but my husbands kids are married just starting to have kids. They have families of their own to take care of.

With all the new programs people can stay in their homes longer, with food delivery with meals on wheels, of course my mother won't eat that food.

We have a maid for her to come in 4 days a week through the state. We do the best we can for her however, it is really hard when your sick yourself.

I am a Veteran who spent 20 years in the Navy and unfortunately, I have Gulf War syndrome which allows me to work at home because I'm too fatigued to drive downtown and back every day.

Although I love my job very much, some days I'm too exhausted to do anything after work. So it is hard to get things done.

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