Ashamed of not Doing More for Mom

by Melanie
(Northeast US)

I regret every day that I don't treat her better. But I'm so afraid of her judgmental remarks & criticisms, that I am always tense around her. It's how I felt even as a child, when her sudden rages terrified me. It feels the same today, like a panic comes over me. (Even though she can't chase me & choke me like before, it still scares me when she is angry). It is what it is.

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Don't feel guilty
by: Anonymous

She's obviously a narcissist, she won't change, she's in the business of making you feel guilty to control you. For your own sanity you should do less not more.

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Many thanks
by: Anonymous

You are good. to say kind things is very healing work..👍thanx

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Ashamed of not Doing More for Mom
by: Anonymous

I can certainly understand why you feel the way you do, considering your past experiences.

I'm sure you're doing the best you can for her, much more than many people are doing, or not doing. You are there for her, you haven't abandoned her and that says something.

Don't be so hard on yourself. This is one of the hardest jobs there is to do.

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