Are you Mad at Me?

by Vickie
(South Carolina)

My elderly parents (father 87 & mother 89) live with my husband and I. They have a lower-level "in-laws" apartment with kitchen & laundry.


So we do all have our own respective privacy even though we see them once or twice daily. My father is still able to drive, and he prepares a lot of their meals while my mom does the laundry.(I do their finances).

Mom suffered a serious head injury in a fall about 18 months ago and has, subsequently, been suffering from dementia ... and is becoming less and less able to think clearly, has trouble remembering things, and basically struggles with the day-to-day activities of life.

She no longer can manage money, cook, or do house cleaning and depends on my dad and us for most things. She still gets around and communicates; but her thought process is deteriorating.

Although this is sad and difficult to see my mother go through, we all love her and just work around her issues. But what I find most frustrating is that lately she is constantly thinking someone is 'mad' at her.

Today she said she thought I was angry with her. Several days ago she accused my dad of telling her he never loved her. Or it's a neighbor who is mad at her. She thinks someone (usually myself) is always mad at her.

Is this part of the dementia process? And what am I doing that makes her think that; or what can I do differently? Honestly, I am starting to get 'mad' at being accused of being 'mad'!

Trying to understand my mom....

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Early Onset Dementia
by: Anonymous

I am coping just so-so, I am constantly searching the web for all the information I can get on dementia, it is an amazing condition that is somewhat different from one another.

I see my mom repeating herself and then crying and then laughing, and then throwing a fit and fussing and complaining about everything I am her caregiver and my brothers all think its normal because she is 92, so thanks for this web site that has come up with some information and allowed me to see other caregivers comments...thought it was just me.

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